Teachers,
friends and other students at his Edmonton school know the truth — that
he's a girl on the outside but feels like a boy on the inside. And
that's why, even at such a young age, he has chosen to live in the world
as the opposite sex, and not keep it a secret.
"If you're not yourself, then it kind of gets sad and depressing," says the freckle-faced kid with short-cropped hair.
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cheap Modest. and they're doing it at younger ages, says Kris Wells, a
researcher with the Institute for Sexual Minority Studies and Services
at the University of Alberta.
Wells
says his office gets calls and emails from parents and schools across
the country at least once a day asking for advice. A few years ago,Super
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Some
students and their families choose a more secretive approach, switching
schools or even moving to other provinces, so they can start fresh, he
says. Others transition over the summer and return to school in the fall
identifying with their new sex.
Growing
up, he hated wearing dresses. He liked Spiderman and dressed up as
comic book hero The Thing one Halloween. When he was five, he had his
mom take him to a hairdresser to cut off his long, brown locks. He
wanted to look like Zac Efron from the movie "High School Musical."
Wendy
Kauffman says she and her husband, Greg, knew their daughter was
different. She would often ask: "When do I get to be a boy?" And she
pleaded to be born again in order to come out right.
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youngest child had seen it all so clearly and, now, she did too.
Kauffman
later told Wren: "I love you whether you're a boy or a girl and I
understand now. And we'll figure out how we can help you. And we'll do
it together."
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Kauffman hopes other parents realize how important it is to really
listen to their children. Wren wants other kids to know it's OK to be
who they are.
Kauffman
says she and her husband initially consulted with Wells about Wren's
transition and he first started living life at home as a boy. After
about a year, they were ready to tell his school.
Wren
was in Grade 5 at Belgravia School, where students occasionally
gathered in sharing circles to talk about life events such as the
separation of parents or a family death. He took his turn to tell his
classmates that he was now living his life as a boy.
The
following year, Wren transferred to Victoria School of the Arts. At
first, he was private about his actual sex, but after a few months he
told friends and shared his story with his class.
There are a couple of older transgender students at the school, but Wren is by far the youngest.
He
says it hasn't been a big deal. He uses the boys' washroom "which, by
the way, is much grosser than the girls' bathroom." He also changes in a
stall in the boys' gym locker room.
Wren
has started monthly drug injections to pause female puberty. When he's
about 16, he'll decide whether he wants to start injecting male
hormones. At 18, he'll be legally old enough to have sex reassignment
surgery.
Wren says he's not sure yet if he wants to take that final step. He's just excited to start Grade 7.
His
school is part of the Edmonton Public School Board which, in 2011,
became the first in the province to develop a policy to protect gay,
lesbian and transgender students and staff from discrimination based on
sexual orientation.
Wren
says he hasn't been subjected to any harassment. Just some teasing when
he first came out — one student winked and called him "Mr. Kauffman." A
couple of others asked for proof that he was actually a girl, but Wren
laughed it off and told them he wasn't prepared to pull down his pants.
Wren says he knows it won't always be this easy and he's prepared for the possibility that he may be bullied later in life.
"People
tease me right now and I can handle it. The way that I like to look at
it is that they're just practice for the real jerks in life.
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